You are still an individual. Davidgrx I actually encourage my husband to go out with his friends though.. Cables might tangle, and tiny charging pods can disappear, but if they're all organized and in one place with this gadget organizer, you can relax. After a couple months of dating I learned her guy friend was gay. Be Patience: The most important thing after communicating is remembering to be patient. Honestly..what i'm going to start doing is when I know hes going out to drink, you should just play his game..don't text/ call him..let him come to youif he does. Bars are often pick-up spots and can offer temptation for someone who's on the fence in their relationship.". But if you notice that these things are happening more frequently, whether it's you or your partner who's doing them, they could be red flags that all is not well. Does my husband go out to bars without M.? The alternative is to . Started Thursday at 07:54 PM, By I wouldn't like the kind of relationships you are talking about, being with people(men or women) that I don't know well or interact with regularly. LOTS of women purposely go after married men. Nearly everyone is guilty of giving their phone or other electronics too much attention from time to time, but if your partner is always so entrenched in what's going on elsewhere, it could be because they're no longer invested in what's going on between the two of you. Later that day when I went to see him again he had a bite on his neck and it looked like a love mark. But just letting your SO know where youre going or what youll be doing is very simple. Also, there can be some exceptions and ultimately, you and your partner probably know your relationship best, so just because they've done one of these things before doesn't necessarily mean that they're done with you or have completely checked out. NO. He stays out all night and turns the ringer off, pfffft. I guess I J. can't really imagine being in a relationship with someone that I didn't trust enough to be "allowed" to hang out with the opposite sex. You know that your a girl. She dumped me for a guy she met there one night. Men or women. 1. This could be a sign of cheating because he is projecting onto you. Call/text/in person, etc.? Do I do that without my SO? At first i let him do it until thats all he would do and i barely got to spend time with him. Yes, crazy to let someone else's actions that do not directly affect you upset you. BTW I can say that the majority of women I know are attracted to women as well (even if they don't act on it) so should they be banned from everyone=)Advertisementif(typeof ez_ad_units != 'undefined'){ez_ad_units.push([[320,50],'mamapedia_com-box-3','ezslot_4',679,'0','0'])};__ez_fad_position('div-gpt-ad-mamapedia_com-box-3-0');if(typeof ez_ad_units != 'undefined'){ez_ad_units.push([[320,50],'mamapedia_com-box-3','ezslot_5',679,'0','1'])};__ez_fad_position('div-gpt-ad-mamapedia_com-box-3-0_1'); .box-3-multi-679{border:none !important;display:block !important;float:none !important;line-height:0px;margin-bottom:5px !important;margin-left:auto !important;margin-right:auto !important;margin-top:5px !important;max-width:100% !important;min-height:50px;padding-bottom:20px !important;padding-top:20px !important;text-align:center !important;}. I occasionally go to after work happy hour with a big group of co-workers. I feel neglected and I don't think I should be treated like this. He would not even go somewhere like that without M. J. cause that's who he is. :). The only time it becomes an issue is when other people judge you per say or make comments like-really!? Often she would be out till 2am or so.. We've been going there for about 3 months now. My SIL and I have this conversation a lot as she feels differently about it than I do. Like myself. In my circle of friends, I am the cook, I know what it feels like. Usually guys will start going to the bar alone if they are starting to build up the guts to cheat. But I've certainly made myself a margarita at home alone :) If I were to do that, or my husband were to do that, I personally would think that's odd -- or 'something' is up (due to our personalities, not because we don't trust one another). I would not judge, unless it was something a man or woman was doing to pick up one night stands.. We don't forbid each other from seeing anyone. I do think it is okay to have opposite sex friends. he always blames it on being wasted and passing out. Its not in my personality to go to a bar alone.but I have gone out to the bar with some girlfriends and/or my SIL. Me and my boyfriend have talked about how we felt several times that we trust eachother so much to the point where if i dont talk to him for three days and i know hes at some crazy parties, i wont feel so worried and we trust each other so much that we both openly said that we could kiss other people if we wanted because truly we both know it wouldnt be real and that we love each other. The good thing about that is when he turns M. on or says sexy things to M., I don't have to turn him down and I get to go home with him! Yes I go out without my husband and he without M. in mixed company. Course I'm the wife who has encouraged her husband to go to the strip club with his friends for bachelor parties he knows he can get his appetite anywhere as long as he eats at home :) and I definitely reap the benefits of those rare sojourns into gyrating nekid females :). 14. I wouldn't want to tempt her or her M.. Good relationships are too hard to come by and I wouldn't want to jepordize one. The campaign, which includes a series of playful and humorous ads, aims to position Tinder as a fun and lighthearted platform for meeting new people. Anyways, tonight he is going out with his buddy (whom I have met) and he let me know. I am her first serious boyfriend as well, her only other boyfriend was a relationship that only lasted about 3 months. 2023 BDG Media, Inc. All rights reserved. Our relationship as a family is great, we all get along, ex-wife included. But for M. it would be fine. That being said we aren't glued at the hip and I am not his mother, so if he wants to hang out with his buddies or I want to go out with my friends for a girls night, neither of us has a problem with it. He is showing all the signs of lost interest. No, I could care less. A "spouse" is an adult. Started January 23, By I mean I'd understand if he were a shady person, but he's not. I remember when i had doubts about my boyfriend, i was really scared to tell him because i was afraid that it might get him upset or **** off and make it seem like i dont trust him. He will even grab people and tell them to go dance with M.. Its actually funny the looks he gets from people when he does it. BUT, remember, he is out, don't go ballistic if you don't hear from him, and leave him alone while he is out. if your partner does these six activities without you. In other words, one can never win when dating an insecure person male or female. So no - when we were dating I did go out dancing quite a bit with my girlfriends - and of course we were hit on - but I never went home with anyone or to anyone other than my hubs. He was at the club for our college. But when it seems to be an all night thing and it's an always and never, those are telling signs that something isn't normal. I envy those who can go out. Night after Friday night, he'd ask about my week, make jokes with me during lulls in the bar rush, and never charge me for my vodka buzz. Again, there are exceptions. I think the fact that he asked your permission first shows he's being conscientious about your needs and wants. Lets see how many times I can add to this. He needs to tell you everything that He does ? agirlwithnoname "When people start to contemplate breaking up, they tend to associate more with single people because they assume this is likely to become their lifestyle," Herring says. Do what you feel is right. Seinfeld (/ s a n f l d / SYNE-feld) is an American television sitcom created by Larry David and Jerry Seinfeld.It aired on NBC from July 5, 1989, to May 14, 1998, over nine seasons and 180 episodes.It stars Seinfeld as a fictionalized version of himself and focuses on his personal life with three of his friends: best friend George Costanza (Jason Alexander), former girlfriend Elaine . You know when you are dating someone who cares and you know when you are dating a player. Rather than saying, "My girlfriend wants to go out alone with her friends," and feeling like you're losing her, work on deepening the attraction, love and respect that she feels for you. Big difference. i dont really know how to feel about this. He knows I'll come home relaxed and happy. ahhh thats the one=) I haven't been there since January so it was a nice change. And adding alcohol to the mix definately doesn't help. It is all because of my trust issue. Price: $18. So, with that being said, if he wants to go out with his buddy once a week, its fine. help!!! She may be loud and obnoxious, overly flirtatious, and quite often visibly tanked. I did. im **** off he doesnt call but should i be worried or just let it go? You spent the formative part of your relationship being someone you really are not by going to the bars with him often.leading. I had to sleep with him I was his wife, she chose to sleep with M.. Effed up but true. You have to trust that he's just enjoying the company of his bros: drinking beers, talking smack and telling dirty jokes. I don't mind him enjoying his time alone he needs time to be a man, be with his guys, working on his cars,fishing etc. Going To A Bar Alone Is Cool If It's Just Temporary. Needless to say, the abuse of such substances can negatively affect decision-making. Why boyfriend doesn't call? Started Friday at 03:52 AM, By But its not like we would go kissing others anyways but just saying We purchased the gift cert from the bar so we were seated in that section. I on the other hand don't know a single woman who is attracted to other women. He does not even care if I go dancing cause he knows who I am going home to. I am a very touchy feely person. So would this be not allowed in your relationship? Wind him up make him jealous. Just stop expecting him to be your boyfriend. :). you have no probable cause so don't get hyped up over a though. And of course, a person of normal mentality, does place their relationship or marriage, first. I am in a similar situation right now and I'm pulling my hair out. Short answer: yes, it's okay. The Desperado is a frequent fixture at the bar. Just get him chipped like a spaniel at the vet so you can track him. It's totally not like that. khairete I prefer to go out with himbut we both believe that it's important to do things on our own too. The thing last time he said he wouldn't get drunk and he did. A few times a year I'll go out dancing with my friends (my husband despises dancing) and once in a blue moon I'll meet someone in a bar to chat. It J. seems silly to worry when there is J. nothing to worry about. He goes to bed without me (20 f) now and we sleep back to back. It's really important to M. that I have connected, powerful, deep friendships. I have also felt the "most women are bisexual" opinion to be not true in my circles. By all means. "[I]f you find that your partner is more engaged with text messaging friends or on social media when you're with them, this is a sign that they are not present in the relationship," Hershenson says. I'm 36 and he is 40, with two young kids who are adorable. I am dealing with the same thing too. You know he's thinking of you. I wouldn't meet a girl at a bar alone, either. Let's face it - we all know bars can be totally unconducive places for relationships. Our relationship will never be more than friends. We LIKE being home together. The constant fighting wouldn't help either, and I'd say that the relationship could be headed towards a breakup unless he wants to pay more attention to you. My problem is I'm very, very jealous when my husband goes out without me. Now, like I said..if this changes, and he starts wanting to go more, like my bf is, and it cuts into your alone time..then yeah. So I was worried and then I went to find him, then I did and he told me to leave. If it becomes a constant thing of going ot the bars all the time and it eats into your time with him, which is what my bf wants to do, then you may have something to worry about. I agree it is between the two committed people to decide what works for them! Ahhhh, the Casino has a hold on him. I let my college girlfriend go out with the girls. If you have an open relationship that should be discussed . A guy, but went home with a girl. So back to your question. I did the club scene in college, but that kinda got out of my system too. Each family and marriage/relationship should be striving to find its own balance which has its foundations resting upon fundamentals such as love, trust, hard word and communication. Dont laugh but normally I go out with my girls to the karaoke bar or this diner/ bar thing where we live, my spouse to Hooters (ew) or the sports bar and we dont have issues because its planned in advance and we know who the other person is hanging with. I get really worried whenever they go out drinking or clubbing together because I have a bad feeling about what my girlfriend may be like drunk as she used to hook up a lot before we meet. Your boyfriend is an adult who shouldn't have to notify you of all of his comings and goings. Even if you don't actually go out. Probably. The answer isn't to NOT go to the bar or NOT get on FB. I think if your spouse or boyfriend does mind you doing that, that is what is important.not what others think. I think that he asked that question confirms why you have your specific boyfriend and why that guy is not said boyfriend. She doesnt mean ask permission. If he is out all night having "fun" and doing all this ****, hes not up to the challenge for being your boyfriend. Best way to contact ex-gf after 1+ months of No Contact? good luck! "But if your partner has started going out more and leaving you at home, that could indicate that they've got one foot out the door. It wasnt just that, he was a flirt. "met" virtually.). I see nothing wrong with your scenarioI J. wouldn't venture into a bar alone. It is all about intent. My husband LOVES when I take off to the pub for a pint and a good read. Thats fine, because it isnt like I want to get permission every time I want to have a drink with my gf or go out for a girls night out. Let's look at your situation, versus mine: 1) Your boyfriend doesn't go to the bar without you that often. It's his choice whether he visits strip clubs, and you're also entitled to your feelings about it. xx. The answer is as simple as the nose on your face. You may develop an issue with it. 3. Clubs and bars are not a place for someone in a relationship unless you're there with your partner to dance, have fun, and show the world who you're deeply in love with. I've seen a lot of posts on here recently about whether its ok for a married or committed person to go to lunch/bar with single person of the opposite sex (or same gender depending on preference) and it had M. wondering if you guys/girls ever go to a bar or an establishment where other singles are and talk to new people? After extensive research, he discovered he could create dramatic changes to his health simply focusing on 3 things that sabotage our body as we age. I tell it like it is. Again I'm so worried. Smackin' The ex's butt toward swinging floor. I would personally feel like a prisoner if he didnt "allow" it and would find it unhealthy. We J. like to know where the other one is, more for safety than out of paranoia or concerns of cheating. The "New Age" opinion. Sure, you're at home Jonesn' about it, but that's ok you'll make it through, and he'll appreciate it. If it was a few hours I'd be fine but he goes off grid for like 10/12 hours at a time and then texts to say his phone died, or he left it at home etc should I be questioning this? FLirt but come home to M.. You know? 1. So, I told him i dont want him to feel he has to ask me whenever he wants to do anything. to get more tequila photos without a doubt. I just know in my heart, I cannot be in another situation like I was with my ex, ever again. I want to flirt, touch and pay lots of attention to him. My friends are like family to M. and I get so much warmth and strength from them. They got married a year later. She may be looking for love or just hungry for attention. In a recent study, researchers have made significant progress in this area. You still can go out. I am one of those guys who doesn't drink often so when I do I also end up on a couch somewhere but I have good friends who protect me .won't let me drive etc.. That's right. Most of the time I go out with my husband, but that is because we don't get very many opportunities to be out together and so I really want to be with him. Sex is often a part of healthy, committed relationships, so if you two aren't getting intimate anymore, that might be an indication that something's not right. If I should meet another man, I see no reason not to remain friends with this man. I don't understand how people have a problem with hanging out and not to flame here, at least to M., it screams insecurity. honey, if you are not doing anything you are not sopossed to to, then dont give it another thought. You can't get mad at him for spending time with his friends, just like he doesn't have the right to get mad at you for hanging out with your friends in return. Ive broken up with him 3 times in the 6 yrs we`ve been together, But always take him back cos im a (sad) and lonely single mom. ***My hubby used to get mad when we'd be out for drinks together and he'd go to the bathroom and come back and find a guy talking to M.. 10. Without being juvenile or sophomoric about it. my boyfriend and i are long distance and i'm in college. The veteran drinker is usually front and center, taking shots or downing beers like one of the guys. I go to a bar every once in a while, for a drink , by myself. My hubs knows M. well enough not to be threatened. He he knows your always in he feels safe. Even then hes moody and doesnt pay me much attention. How many people have you slept with in your life?? I have no problem because I love girls weekends. When youre in a relationship you dont just change the rules. Inevitably he DOES get hit on by both men and women. Granted we shouldn't keep people on a leash and there are a lot of things going on with a LDR but how can you truts someone like that? S. My husband doesn't like it when I go out to bars or clubs without him but if I want to go hang out with the girls every so often I can and I do go. 1. Long answer: a lot of people dislike their partners going clubbing because they don't trust them not to cheat - or, how they often tend to play it off so it doesn't sound as bad, they don't trust other people not to seduce them. Yes, A LOT in his profession. Trust is arguably . Make out you are. my heart goes out to u, its so hard coz if u keep bringin up the subject u dont want to come across as clingy or needy, im in the same boat myself and i just confronted him lastnight, i ended up finishin it, which now i regret, if u intend to bring it up again with him be ready for the consequences. Um, no. Nothing controlling about it. My boyfriend was a loner but when he made an effort to date me, he knew exactly what respect and proper behavior was. It makes me panic. I do what I CHOOSE to do. And just a little hint (whens playing games-such as baseball- you cant just change the rules to benefit yourself). AskMen, Become a Better Man, Big Shiny Things, Mantics and guyQ are among the federally 9. he always blames it on being wasted and passing out. Yuck. Well, honestly, he only goes once every week-2 weeks. To M., it isn't a point of trusting my husband or not. You wanna pay me 500 bucks an hour I can ask you as many questions as you feel like answering. While medication and therapy can be effective treatments, there are also several lifestyle habits that can help boost your mood and improve your overall well-being. Wife of 8 years straddled and flirted with my friend last night while drunk What did you do guys if you really really miss someone but you dont want to text or call him? I operate on the fact that it is a habitual and disrespectful ploy to hide a double lifestyle. Thats not appropriate for our relationship. But there's obviously cases where the spouse is comfortable with the environment like you described J. M. so I don't see an issue. Mostly for work, like happy hours. Seriously . ? Started January 19, By While this can be a helpful resource for some, others are using these platforms to self-diagnose and potentially harm their mental health. And my husband does not have a problem with it. If it doesn't work, try a new combination. It hasn't been my thing since I was about 22. I went to see my boyfriend in the worst place in Vancouver downtown and he was standing outside of the bar and this was late at night by the way. I never told her it was on my mind but she knew that my first relationship went sour because if infidelity. No brainer. I'm in need of help my boyfriend and I have been dating go a year and a bit he rang me telling me he going to a work do and that he would call in the morning I hqvent from him since I have his wallet and everything I'm so worried he might be cheating on me what do I do ?? what if that guy made the relationship that way and all of a sudden wants to change the game.Vice versa? I don't say that he should stay with me all the time, but he can send me a message from time to time. The only time he gets phone calls is when I wake up at 3am and hes not home. Also, you've officially met a women who has no attraction whatsoever to other women!! Yes, if you've provided all the details. answers from Chicago on October 30, 2008. 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